Divorce can be an emotional endeavor for all involved, but it can be an especially challenging time for children. This might be particularly true if you’re in the military and maybe aren’t at home with your children as much as you would like. While there are a whole host of child custody issues that you’ll have to sort through before you finalize your military divorce, the impact it has on your children starts with how you tell them that you’re getting divorced.
Tips to Minimize the Impact of News of a Divorce
There are many steps that you can take to better protect your children’s emotional well-being as you break the news of a divorce. Here are some tips:
- Present a united front with your spouse, if possible. Doing so can help your children understand that you and your spouse want to work together for them and that, although a lot will change, you’re still a family.
- Don’t play the blame game. This can sour your children’s relationship with you and their other parent, causing long-term issues that you’d probably rather avoid.
- Accept their emotions. Your kids will feel a wide array of emotions, some of which might be pointed at you. It’s okay. Let them feel the way they feel and encourage them to ask questions. Try to be reassuring and understanding.
- Give a sense of stability. Children need stability to be healthy. A divorce can threaten that stability and put your children in a position where they feel vulnerable. So, focus on what won’t change as a result of your divorce, whether that be their school and extracurricular activities or certain family events.
These are just a few of the ways you can break the news of divorce to your children. This is just the beginning of your divorce process, so be sure to seek legal assistance if you think it will help further your interests and, more importantly, your children’s.