We all want what’s best for our families, and sometimes that means a divorce is necessary. If you or your ex-spouse are a uniformed service member, you understand the extra complexities added to your family dynamic. What’s more, you may be wondering how you can promote positivity between you, your child and your ex despite the challenges your family faces.
While many children are resilient through change, how their parents respond to life following divorce matters. Some children are at substantial risk of long-term negative consequences. But there are ways to combat this. You may have taken such measures before your divorce. However, special attention to them in the fallout of the split can do wonders in improving their chances of positive growth. Such measures may be as simple as continual positive reinforcement and support. You may even want to consider going through family programs designed by experts to help prevent long-term struggles.
The little things may have a big impact
Additionally, you may find that your family benefits from small acts or changes. Consider, for instance, changing up how you perceive your current family dynamic with the terminology you use. One writer in a Military Families article regarding co-parenting shares how helpful simply dismissing the term “visitation” can be. The writer says that, when it is time for her children to be with their father, instead of “visitation,” they refer to it as his time to parent.
Another small act that may appear inconvenient to some, but for a military family, it very might well be a necessity, and that is to consider deviating from your schedule as much as possible to ensure fair parenting times and promote flexibility.
Taking such measures may nurture the kind of positivity that can keep your children with a healthy mindset regarding the family dynamic, whatever the custody arrangement may be.